Humans Are Weird
I mean, they just are. We go through our entire lives, pretty much just trying to find somebody to love and friends to surround ourselves with: people we can attempt to halfway figure out. We are closest to people that we either understand or try to every single day. We want to find people in this world who will comprehend our actions and understand who we are, and only then can we do whatever we want.
Because let’s face it, we live in a minefield of social consequences. Every action of every thing we do every day is carefully measured against internal wishes and social norms. Society is evolutionary. If we don’t agree with society, if we steal and lie and are aggressive or rude or psychopathic, we are not being adaptive. Those are not human characteristics, evolutionarily speaking. We developed this society over this course of our evolution for precisely one reason: survival and protection. And I think that it is still important today.
Here’s an example. When I was very young, I remember getting very angry while driving in the car with my father. I couldn’t understand the need or importance of money. I asked him why we bother with it, since all it seems to do is make people unhappy, or unbalance the playing field, or misguide people, or kill them. (Not in those exact words of course, I was but nine or ten). And I always remember the point he made about humans: we are creatures of fairness, of measurement. We are driven by equality, even if some people are in less equal situations than others. He said that if nobody had money, a lot of the world wouldn’t go to work, especially those at jobs they hated. As unfortunate as it is, we need different types of people to do the jobs at the lower-paying end versus the higher-paying jobs. And if you think about it, it’s really true. Say we had no money in the world. Everything is free. People wouldn’t be equitable, especially those who felt that they hadn’t previously been in a very fair line of work, or hadn’t been very well off. People would take, and not give anything in return. I suppose that is the very value of money. To some extent, it forces people to be fair, it controls most people. As shitty as it might be, it forces people to not take without reciprocating an action of equal value (work for pay for objects of desire). And as much as money may restrict people in certain areas, I believe it is one of many factors that make up and underline the importance of society.
Without society, without rules, without money, without power. We may think that initially this sounds like a super-fun place. Nobody telling us what to do! Everything is free! But think a little deeper. How long until the factory workers quit making the Coach wallets and designer clothes and Mac makeup that you want? How long until the garbage collectors don’t collect? How long until our internet servers crash because nobody feels like maintaining them out of the goodness of their hearts? How long until the teachers stop going to work? NOT VERY LONG.
This is my case for society. Be it as it may, although we fight against it and hate how it controls us and our actions, society is necessary. I believe that we require the rules that govern our world. Without them we would live in anarchy, in fear, in destruction. The most we can do is attempt to be ourselves inside of this. As much as society is important, we must not let it hinder us in being who we are. We must find people who love us no matter what we do, say or act, unconditionally. We must try to make a place for ourselves in this world where we are not afraid to do what we feel is right.
Society is necessary, but so is each person in it.